Sometimes you need your sub to fuck you
And then you remind them who’s in charge with a little tap on the cheek…
Someone likes being all filled up 😊
Do you like it that my dick is better than yours baby doll? I certainly do…
Look how hard he is waiting for me to come home 😍
I want to have someone to welcome home. I’d be good and obedient, waiting naked on my knees, house cleaned and dinner ready. And of course, with my body ready for you to use if you want that first
Good, eager, hard working (slutty) boys are so VALUABLE. 😍😍😍
Go ahead and ride me baby girl, take what you need.
“Are you sure you’re dominant?”
Had that asked once.
It was a sub. I wasn’t actively telling them what to do/automatically making the first move, and they just… asked it. “You sure you’re dominant?” It took me aback.
Yes, I am dominant.
But I’m also shy, and full of doubt. How do I know the other person really wants this? What if they want to back out? How can I order someone around – I don’t even really want to just tell someone to “sit down, shut up, and jerk off,” you know? That’s not my style. That’s not me.
I am vulnerable. I need the sub to make themself more appealing than retreating into my shyness is. I need to be tempted into dominance. I need to have the sub want me enough that I can’t doubt it. I need them to know I don’t want a sub who remains silent – I want active participation, I want them talking and talking and talking. I want a partner, a friend, before I want a sub.
Yes, I’m sure I’m dominant. But I’m not sure I’m the dominant for you.
👏👏 this is me
More Dominents should read this i think
I’m going to disagree on this. I aimed this at submissives. I’m glad doms can relate, but I’m tired of the viewpoint that subs can/should/are supposed to lay back and let the dom do all the work. That’s not how I operate. It’s not sexy to me. I thrive off of back-and-forth communication of fantasies turned into actual practice, not “this is what we’re going to do because I said so.”
Yeah, I totally saw this as communication with subs, to be honest. And I totally agree with the viewpoint that dominants shouldn’t be doing everything. Like, as a sub, thinking about a partner? Let me pleasure you, allow me to initiate! Let me kiss you softly and sweetly, let me show you enough passion that it coaxes out the domme inside you, making you want until you -take-. That’s fucking hot!
I feel at my most dominant when he is at his most submissive. In the end, we feed off each other’s energy. You really need both parts to have a mind-blowing experience. It’s very yin and yang.
Granted, it makes it hard sometimes to START the proceedings, because it’s a chicken and the egg situation. Do I need to be dominant first? Does he need to be submissive? It usually begins a little awkwardly until we get the ball rolling!
Absolutely this. It is power exchange, and the people who are the most attractive are the ones who give me something to work with. Who actively offer themselves–not demand or do with now an expectation. Offer.
I have a sub who actively practices what he calls subduction. Trying to develop the skills to coyly seduce dominance out of me. Worse comes to worse, I just appreciate my pretty object and he feels actively submissive in making himself mindful on being pleasing to me.
Be active in your submission friends.
+100 for active bottoms. As has been said, power exchange is a two way street. Don’t demand or expect that someone should act a certain way towards you. Or always initiate play. It’s a two sided game.
I’m working on offering myself more. Though I try to do what I can and make sure that we’re both having fun and getting our needs fulfilled.
Each side offers what they can, and like @dommestic said above, each side feeds on the energy, offerings, and reactions of the other.
Subduction is now one of my favourite portmanteaus. And I’m a FAN of portmanteaus.
Yes for subduction. That’s a skill I want to be good at.
Question for the dominants though: are there times when subduction would feel unwanted? I’m always nervous about thrusting my submissiveness at people who don’t want or aren’t feeling it. How do I know you’re not in the mood? How do I know if you would appreciate subduction rather than just feeling pressured by it?
This isn’t a D/s question at all, in my opinion. Dominants don’t magically know if someone is into something – hence why I rarely initiate, unless I know the person well. This is a “knowing your audience” question. Gauging whether or not someone is in the mood for it just depends on how well you know them. If you don’t know them, it’s guesswork or just straight-out asking. Neither of those are particularly good ideas though.
Yeah I agree it’s not exclusive to D/s. But if dominants don’t magically know what people are into subs are the same. And unfortunately when we’re in the female dominant male submissive world, male subs often end up making female dominants feel like they are just looking for a fetish dispenser. That’s the last thing I want to do, so I really am cautious about initiating too.
I would disagree that just straight out asking is a bad idea. The more direct, open, and blunt communicating the better. I guess it would just be nice to know my partner would clearly tell me if I try subduction and they’re not in the mood, and not feel pressured.
I don’t like the word “sub”. Aren’t we all both: dominat and submissive – depending on the situation? It’s thrilling when both sexes love to be both…
No. Some people just ARE dominant. Their personality. Who they are. It’s dominant. Some are submissive by nature. It’s who they are as beings, as people.
Sometimes people are merely kinky. They want to have kinky sex and not determine a dom or a sub. That’s okay too.
Some people switch. Sometimes they feel dominant. Sometimes they feel submissive. They vary based on time and circumstance and mood.
It’s A L L V A L I D. Please don’t dismiss an emotion or state of being just becuase it differs from your own.
Please.
Roleplays are fun!
Sometimes the best thing you can do for a man is show him how good it’ll feel when you hit that spot 😉
Moans are 😍
we need infinity beer, this is important.
Into it.
Teaseland 