As a pretty lazy domme sometimes I myself have no idea how I wanna make my boy play. But I know I wanna be the one to decide – he, of course, gets no say. So what I’ve gone ahead and created is a a decision roulette wheel. He gets to play, I get to decide – win win!

yessiraustralia-again:

It was only 10 minutes but I bet it seemed longer. She was sitting there, waiting. Her wrists and ankles were strapped to the chair. She was gagged and had a blindfold on.

I slowly snuck back into the room, then clicked my fingers. She turned her head slight, trying to distinguish where I was in the room.

I didn’t say anything. I didn’t make any other sounds. I didn’t move. I just left her sitting there for a few minutes.

It’s incredible how lack of stimuli can be so powerful, how claustrophobic it can become. She was already dribbling. Soon she would whimper. If I approach, she will wonder what is going to happen next. If I touch her, she will flinch.

I just want to know what she was dribbling. Can someone help me out?

Gentle reminder that..

D/s is not about sex. it’s literally about dominance, the act of having power or control and of submission, the act of giving up power or control up.

D/s can include sex, but it doesn’t need to.

You can be in a D/S relationship as an asexual.

You can be in a D/s relationship and never have intercourse.

Dominance and submission have a wide wide wide range of acts, and sexual intercourse of any sort is just one part of it.

Can a virgin be a sub or Dom? I hear people say you can’t be in kink if you haven’t had sex.

fantasies-of-a-dominant:

I have to be honest. I agree. If you’ve never had sex, you shouldn’t be messing with kink. Having sex for the first time is such a nerve wracking and momentous occasion. How can you have any idea of what you truly want, if you’ve not experienced anything? Sex is about learning your body, as well as your mind. Plenty of people like the idea of being roughly handled, but until you’ve experienced it, you can’t say. Personally, I would never play with a virgin in a kink setting. If you are a virgin, go and have sex for a bit (with the right person and someone worthy), and learn, and grow. It should be organic. Then if you want to include kink, that should grow slowly anyway. No one goes from being a virgin to a BDSM slave overnight. 🖤

Send asks….

I literally thought I was asexual until I discovered GFD. So I disagree. Sex is experienced by everyone differently, and you need to spend some time figuring out what you want. I say, if you don’t want your first time to be vanilla, it doesn’t have to be. But also, TAKE THE TIME to get to know your partners and DISCUSS DISCUSS DISCUSS what your wants, needs and expectations are. Your first time can be d/s but you would need to have a thorough talk about kink, desires and always LIMITS.

Also you need a safeword. It can be stoplight system or a word but always always always have a safeword.