submissivegames:

Bubble Busting Time

I’ve recently gotten another wave of “how do I make my significant other do this?”, “how do I find a mistress?”, and/or “how do I make this my life?” questions.

Short answer, you don’t. Not in the way you’re thinking.

Longer answer, this is a predominantly fantasy blog, filled with fun and kinky fantasies, scenes, and stories.

Perhaps one out of hundreds of the people I interact with are in 24/7 bdsm relationships, and even those likely aren’t what you’re imagining right now.

Porn isn’t any more real than the last marvel movie you watched. A strapon doesn’t just slide dry into a hole without some prep, you can’t just leave someone tied up for hours, and being a footstool will get fucking boring for both parties after a while.

Kink is fun, scenes are great, but most of you who say, “I want that to be my life.” only day that because you haven’t experienced it and your horny.

What you’d probably enjoy is a scene, getting off, and then going back to your normal life until you’re horny again.

So what does that mean?

“How do I make my significant other do this?”

You don’t make them do anything, stop phrasing it like that. Just talk to them, ask them about their fantasies as well, and listen. Can you mix and match? Don’t pitch long time periods, an hour here or there is fine but keep in mind that creating a fantasy for someone is exhausting and they probably don’t want to keep up a persona for a whole weekend.

“How do I find a mistress.”

Look, one of two ways. Either find someone you actually care about and who cares about you, meaning stop thinking with your dick/cunt, and then see if they’re interested in kink.

Or the other option, pay a pro for scenes. Honestly, just get it out of your system. You’ll pay a masseuse to help you chill, this really isn’t any different, and the good ones have CPR training, know all the safety steps, and will bring your fantasy to life in a safe way.

“How do I make this my life?”

You very probably don’t, cause you’ve got to get to work, pick up the kids, finish your thesis, make dinner, meet your friends.

Anything in excess can be bad for you, so, have a utility wank, think to yourself, would I really want to sleep in a cage? What would that do to my back? And enjoy the occasional scene while living your life.

Be safe, sane, keep it consensual, and respectful.

Ive always had a curiosity towards topping. I always wondered what it was like;its one of those curiosities that keeps resurfacing.So I know its not a phase.I never really felt like a sub,more like a switch.How can I begin to explore Topping in the somewhat territorial community of Dommes? A friend of mine asked his friends that were Dommes,they were super patronizing and thought it was ‘cute’.I know there is a lot of legalities,psychology,and safety involved.I just want to be mentored properly

fantasies-of-a-dominant:

I really don’t know what to suggest. I don’t have any female Dom friends, so I was unaware that you would face such patronising behaviour. I would like to think, that the attitude shown by this particular group of people is not indicative of the sort of behaviour you would expect from female Doms in general. As to being mentored, I would suggest reading as much as you can about being a Dom in the bedroom, safety in play etc. Perhaps reach out to female Doms for advice on here. Followers – if you are aware of any good female Dom blogs, or indeed have any good advice for anon, please comment on this post. 🖤

Send asks…

Thanks for the tag @crushers-anonymous! I’m happy to answer anon’s questions to the best of my ability and/or direct you to other domme friends of mine!

softheart-dom:

as a person, I try to remain rational about external relationships

as a dom, I want to make it clear that you’re mine. Mine to look at, mine to kiss, mine to fuck. I’m a very possessive person and I want to bite your neck and leave hickies so everyone knows to back the fuck off. I want to put a collar on your pretty little neck so you always have a reminder of who owns you. Give you bruises on your perfect ass so the next day whenever you sit down you remember that I bring you pleasure.

You’re your own person but you’re also mine

Big mood.

sensualsativa:

By following me you consented to seeing whatever it is I post on my blog. I don’t have that choice when you put your dick/genitals as your avatar, it automatically shows up in my notifications when you like or reblog one of my posts. You’re forcing people to look at your genitalia when they didn’t ask to see it.

THIS.