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Bubble Busting Time

I’ve recently gotten another wave of “how do I make my significant other do this?”, “how do I find a mistress?”, and/or “how do I make this my life?” questions.

Short answer, you don’t. Not in the way you’re thinking.

Longer answer, this is a predominantly fantasy blog, filled with fun and kinky fantasies, scenes, and stories.

Perhaps one out of hundreds of the people I interact with are in 24/7 bdsm relationships, and even those likely aren’t what you’re imagining right now.

Porn isn’t any more real than the last marvel movie you watched. A strapon doesn’t just slide dry into a hole without some prep, you can’t just leave someone tied up for hours, and being a footstool will get fucking boring for both parties after a while.

Kink is fun, scenes are great, but most of you who say, “I want that to be my life.” only day that because you haven’t experienced it and your horny.

What you’d probably enjoy is a scene, getting off, and then going back to your normal life until you’re horny again.

So what does that mean?

“How do I make my significant other do this?”

You don’t make them do anything, stop phrasing it like that. Just talk to them, ask them about their fantasies as well, and listen. Can you mix and match? Don’t pitch long time periods, an hour here or there is fine but keep in mind that creating a fantasy for someone is exhausting and they probably don’t want to keep up a persona for a whole weekend.

“How do I find a mistress.”

Look, one of two ways. Either find someone you actually care about and who cares about you, meaning stop thinking with your dick/cunt, and then see if they’re interested in kink.

Or the other option, pay a pro for scenes. Honestly, just get it out of your system. You’ll pay a masseuse to help you chill, this really isn’t any different, and the good ones have CPR training, know all the safety steps, and will bring your fantasy to life in a safe way.

“How do I make this my life?”

You very probably don’t, cause you’ve got to get to work, pick up the kids, finish your thesis, make dinner, meet your friends.

Anything in excess can be bad for you, so, have a utility wank, think to yourself, would I really want to sleep in a cage? What would that do to my back? And enjoy the occasional scene while living your life.

Be safe, sane, keep it consensual, and respectful.